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Former leader of US ‘ex-gay’ group has just got married … to a man

Former leader of Love in Action gets married

Former leader of Love in Action gets married

John Smid, the former executive director of the ‘Love in Action’ ex-gay group from 1990 until 2008, said he had tried to deny his own sexuality but had come to the conclusion that it would not change.  His marriage to his partner, Larry McQueen was covered in The Independent

“I’ve believed in faith that something was going to happen, and it never did, and so at my age, right now in my life, I don’t have that many good years left in me, and I can’t live like this for the rest of my life, so I said no I’m not willing to keep pushing after something that’s not going to happen,” he told local US news outlet The Lone Star Q earlier this year.

In a Facebook announcement of the couple’s marriage over the weekend, Mr Smid said: “I gradually got to know [McQueen] over time until we reached a place in our lives that we saw we wanted to get to know one another through a dating relationship.

“As we dated we shared our vision for life, our personal philosophies, and our faith values. We found a compatibility that was comfortable and exciting.”

Mr Smid met McQueen three years ago, but they were just “acquaintances with common friends,” he said. He concluded his marriage announcement with a heartfelt acknowledgement of previous “mistakes, shortcomings, and failures”.

“I realized this week that my relationship with Larry is a mirror I see in every day. For most of my life, the mirror I saw reflected my mistakes, shortcomings, and failures,” he said.

“The reflection I see today with Larry shows me the positive things in my life, my strengths, gifts, and talents. I see how I can succeed at a mutual intimate and loving relationship. For this, I am truly grateful.”

We wish the couple well and are glad that after years of struggle that John Smid  has finally accepted how God has made him.